Stacey M. Kananen

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Five years after “Not Guilty”

It is hard to believe that March 10, 2015 is the five year anniversary of my not guilty verdict. It is so hard to look back and fathom what that time was like. First, in 2007, I was arrested for a murder I didn’t commit. Then I waited three long years, with an ankle bracelet on, for the trial to … Continue reading

Why the Kansas school spanking bill is wrong

Recently I read about a bill in Kansas which will allow spanking children in schools. Teachers and caregivers will have the right to spank a child up to ten times, so hard that it could leave bruising and redness on the child. I want to know why any politician thinks that this should be a … Continue reading

Thoughts on the 10-year anniversary of my mother’s murder

I know I haven’t written for a few months, and for anyone who feels that it is because now that my book, Fear of Our Father, has been published I don’t think I need to — they are so incorrect. It is because I have been trying to concentrate on my healing and finding somewhat … Continue reading

I chose to be gay

If you’ve read my book, Fear of Our Father—a true story of abuse, murder and family ties, then you know that I am openly gay. You will have read that I chose to be in a romantic relationship with another woman because of the sexual abuse inflicted upon me by my father, and that I’m … Continue reading

Thank you for Fear of Our Father’s great reviews

Well, Fear of Our Father has been out for a month now, and the book sales have been exciting to see. We’ve been on various best sellers lists on Amazon, in various genres, and as I write this today we’re hovering at the higher end of the Top #100 Best Sellers overall.This is gratifying because … Continue reading

Thoughts on my upcoming book …

Well, it is hard to believe, but after three long years the book that I co-authored with Lisa Bonnice will be released in June. Fear of Our Father was a project that took many different directions before it ended up as a final product. First, the title was Sink or Swim but that was changed … Continue reading

Child Abuse Awareness month

Well another month has come and for many the weather is improving. For many victims of abuse, the winter months bring more and more abuse. The weather, the holidays, whatever the excuse may be for the moment. Springtime brings a new peace for some, yet it only lasts for a short time. For my family, … Continue reading

Three years after the verdict: birthdays, books and TV shows

This month is one of happiness and yet so much pain and turmoil for me. It is happy because on March 12, 2010 the jury came back with the Not Guilty verdict in my murder trial. On the other hand, this month, my mom would have turned 75 if she hadn’t been killed in 2003. … Continue reading

Life after abuse holds hope for the future

Thank God I finally got a job after almost a year of dealing with background checks and suspicious employers. I can’t say I blame them–with so many people desperate for work to choose from–for passing on an applicant with a murder charge on her record, but most of them overlooked the “Not Guilty” outcome and … Continue reading

Healing for the Holidays

Wow, this year has gone by so quickly. Before I reminisce on my year, I want to take a moment to talk about the senseless killings that took place at Sandy Hook. I am saddened for these families and hope that with time, courage, help, and their faith that this holiday sees them finding a … Continue reading